You miss the train. Your phone dies right before an important call. Everyone around you seems to be thriving while you're barely keeping it together. And suddenly, the thought creeps in:
“Why does the universe conspire against me?”
Let’s pause right there.
First of all, if you’ve ever had that thought, you’re not alone. Many people has had the feeling that the universe is against them. When life feels like a series of slaps instead of steps forward, it’s only human to start wondering if some unseen force is actively blocking your path. But here’s the truth:
It’s not the universe. It’s the narrative we’ve been taught to believe: often rooted in trauma, comparison, and the stories we silently carry.
Let’s unpack what’s really going on when it feels like the stars are misaligned just for you.
1. Trauma Shapes the Story We Tell Ourselves
Here’s something no one teaches us in school: when we’ve gone through hard things, especially in childhood, our brains learn to default to survival mode. That often sounds like:
-
“Nothing ever works out for me.”
-
“What’s the point of trying?”
-
“Everyone else has it easier.”
These thoughts are protective. They help us brace for disappointment. But over time, they become background noise, shaping how we see the world, even when it isn’t true anymore.
💡 What to try: When you catch yourself spiraling into “the universe hates me,” gently ask: “What part of me is trying to protect me right now?” Give that part a little compassion. It's doing its best and now, so are you.
2. Success ≠ Happiness (Especially Online)
It’s easy to believe the universe favors other people when all we see is their highlight reel. She got the promotion. He bought the house. They’re always smiling, traveling, glowing.
But here's the thing: external success doesn’t equal inner peace.
So many people who “have it all” on paper are struggling in silence. Anxiety. Loneliness. Burnout. A constant need to perform just to feel worthy.
The truth is, the universe isn’t playing favorites, it’s just that we only see the filtered version of someone else’s reality.
💡 What to try: When you feel the pull of comparison, remind yourself: “I don’t know their whole story and I’m writing my own.”
3. Your Brain is Wired to Spot Problems, Not Miracles
From an evolutionary standpoint, your brain’s job is to keep you safe. That means it's on high alert for danger, loss, and anything that feels like a threat — even when there isn’t one.
So if nine things go right and one goes wrong? You’ll probably focus on the one.
That doesn’t mean you’re negative — it means you’re human.
💡 What to try: At the end of the day, list three tiny things that went right. A smile. A hot coffee. A deep breath. These micro-moments are the universe nudging you gently, saying “Hey, I’m still here.”
Also Read: How to Identify Your Obstacles and What's Really Holding You Back
4. The Universe Isn’t Against You, It’s Just Unpredictable
Life is messy. Wild. Unscripted. The universe isn’t out to get you, it’s just doing what it does: moving, changing, and sometimes throwing curveballs.
But those curveballs aren’t curses. They’re invitations.
-
To grow.
-
To let go.
-
To become the person your younger self needed.
💡 What to try: Instead of asking, “Why me?” try asking, “What is this teaching me?” That subtle shift can transform pain into power.
5. What You Focus On Expands
If you spend all your energy searching for proof that the world is against you… you’ll find it. But if you start scanning for small signs of support, a kind word, a door that opens, an idea that sparks, you’ll find that too.
This isn’t about pretending everything is perfect. It’s about reclaiming your power to choose where your energy goes.
💡 What to try: Try writing a weekly “proof list”, just five signs that life might be working with you. You’ll be surprised at how quickly the tide starts to turn.
So... Is the Universe Against You?
No. But sometimes, life is hard. And sometimes, we carry stories that make it harder.
But here’s what’s also true:
-
You’re more resilient than you think.
-
You’re allowed to rewrite the narrative.
-
And even when it feels like everything is going wrong, you’re still moving forward.
The universe isn’t against you. It’s just unpredictable. But that doesn’t mean you’re not being guided. It might not be clear yet, but in time, you’ll look back and realize: you were being shaped, not punished.
Keep going. The stars haven’t forgotten you.
Learn more about Good Mood Circle here.
Written by Jin How
0 Comments